Inner Truth In An Outer World

Recently, someone suggested I start a blog. "Do I really want to post my thoughts in public?" I thought. No, so I'll make this easier for right now. I will post some notes from a lecture last night in OZ.

Dr. David Lieberman, a lecturer, who spoke to a nice sized audience of singles at OZ, about the "Laws of Attraction" talked about how

1) People are more attracted to something they can't have 'too' easily. Key note on the word 'too'. People don't want things that are too difficult either apparently, we're just finicky are we? ;) We want things just so...

2) People are generally attracted to self esteem, so to date, it helps for one to work on theirs. People with good self esteem care able to do another important thing that is needed on a date - make another person feel good about themself. People who feel good about themselves, makes others feel that way too. As the saying goes "Hurt people, hurt people."

3) Don't have a 'tell all' policy on the first date. It's best to put your best foot forward. In the past, I would have disagreed perhaps, but I do agree at this point. Kind of like with finding a job. Everyone has things that are not the best, better to leave that until someone knows the positive about you as well, so they can develop caring for you before finding out the more difficult parts.

I have a lot more to say, but it's not all for your ears...rather, eyes :).

I dedicate this post to all the single dating frum people out there who might gain a little something from this re-post of ideas from last night.

Have a good one.

I.T.